I think it is a natural response to want to be rescued from a horrible situation, I don't think it is unhealthy, I think it is something that gives us hope in the face of some pretty tough shit that happened. That wanting someone to save you means that you have hope that someday it will all stop.

I realize now that I can't 'save' anyone else I can only save myself. I can help others open up and start a conversation and I can give support and affirmation but I can't save them from their hurts.

however, when you talk about children or even teenagers whose brains are not fully developed maybe they really do need saving. If saving means stepping in and calling the police when someone is being abused then talking to that kid and finding a home for them, helping them find therapy and giving them hope then I will save someone. The trouble is that people don't follow all the way through, it is relly hard, we all know the behaviors, rage, cutting, burning, emotion distress, that is everything that someone goes through and that is alot to take on to save someone, ot walk them through that process over and over until they get it, or don't and then watch them self-destruct. Would yu really follow through?