I want mine to be ethical, not to make my life choices for me but to let me do that, to ask good questions, to explain why she wants to do a specific test or procedure, to be compassionate when I am afraid, to explain medicine in terms I understand, not to make fun of me when I tell her that I can feel my pancreas bubbling, but explain to me why that's impossible without being condescending. If something is going to hurt, tell me the truth and give me time to get ready. If i don't want to do a procedure because I am an incest survivor, but she thinks that I really have to get this procedure done, I would prefer that she not give me a harsh, cold ultimatum, but be understanding and work with me to find options or make it easier for me to get through the procedure with minimal trauma. Don't be a dictator, be a health partner. Never lie to me.

For a therapist, some of those things apply, but also be a good listener, ask good questions, be considerate of my time, be ethical, I can't think of any more right now.