My blood boils when someone snaps at me. My family knows NOT to do it - it's not hard for my husband since he never raises his voice - he is a very stoic individual. My mother screamed and yelled at me my entire life so when someone yells or snaps at me, I am totally triggered. I tend to see red and I usually say nothing in return because if I do, the situation will only get worse by my verbal attack against it.

In the past, I wouldn't hold back, I would lash out immediately if someone snapped at me, but I've learned as I've gotten older that by staying quiet, the situation ends much sooner than later and I can move forward with working it out in my own head, rationally.

Best,
Rachel