I am new to these forums but i have been looking for somewhere to link up with others who understand. I am under quite a lot of stress in my own life, as a beginning teacher, and now, with my partner's PSTD flaring up I also find myself as major provider, budgeter, housewife, cook, basically everything that needs to be done falls on to me. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

However, when I need to let go and just vent and cry, my partner just holds me close and lets me cry. He is the one that is encouraging me to see the psychologist, he is the one encouraging me to get out and do things for myself so I don't burn out. I think because of his PSTD he is more understanding and able to help.

Sometimes when I need to just tell someone about my day I find it best to call my mum, I know that she is always willing and able to listen, where my partner cannot always focus on my convesations.

Having said this, it doesn't take away the enormous guilt I feel when I do let go, and I feel like I'm putting more onto him. I try hard to be superwoman and keep all the balls in the air, but I can't always do it.