Although I've known about my husbands traumatic past, it's only been a two days since he's been formally diagnosed PTSD.

We've managed to remain married for 13 years. However, after having a special needs child 8 years ago, our marriage has really slid down hill. We've been in and out of therapy so many times. And finally, we found a therapist who read between the lines and figured out what was preventing us from moving on and becoming a healthy couple again.

Anyway, of course his one on one therapy now is bringing it all back up. Does anyone have any advise on how to deal with the confrontations of someone who is always looking to pick fights?

Yesterday's scenerio included a very happy thing (we found a Respite Care worker which will allow us some couples time). I had lightly asked him what he'd like to do with some of this time we now have. This quickly turned into him challenging me as why our relationship isn't perfect after all the counseling we've had as a couple. (Keep in mind, he's only had 2 sessions with a therapist that picked up on his PTSD). And questions like "when will he ever be good enough for me"? All of which are related to his childhood - I get that. I'm ok with that. But what I don't know how to deal with is my response to it all.

This morning, he emailed me from work the following:

Do you feel our relationship has gotten better (Yes / No)?
Do you think we are starting to get close again (Yes / No)?
Do you still want me around (Yes / No)?
Do you think I have improved (Yes / No)?
Do you feel I am even trying (Yes / No)?

I simply do not know how to or even if I should answer these.

Any advise is greatly appreciated!