I have never written in this section of the forum before; but after reading this yesterday, I asked my husband of 18 years what it has been like living with me (I am a PTSD sufferer).

He was very honest and said it was challenging because:
-I would shut down for days at a time and did not even realize I was shut down.
-My anxiety has kept him from being involved in some activities that he would have liked to enjoy as a couple.
-My depression is difficult because at times it drags him down and leaves him to care for the children, work full-time and make sure I am ok; which is exhausting.
-He has lost friends because they did not understand why I would get upset over something seemingly small and he would protect me.
-When I go for nights without sleeping; so does he. Not just because I am making noise and moving around, but because he worries about me.

I'm sure there is more to the list. I asked him what made him stay for 18 years and endure such frustration. This was his answer:

-He knew I had issues before we married. I did not try to deceive him about my anxiety and depression.
-Even though I shut down and get depressed; he always knows I will eventually come back.
-I always do as much as I can and totally relieve him and let him rest when I feel well.
-When I feel well I am always up and fun to be around. He's never considered me one to seek sympathy or attention.
-If friends leave because he protects me; then they can go because I am his best friend.
-And last but not least, he loves me more than his next breath. We are truly soul-mates.

I hope it is ok to post this here. Needless to say, I am very glad I asked that question. Today is going to be a great day! I am so blessed.