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Originally Posted by Nicolette  While the wanting to be rescued makes perfect sense I wonder if that is only part of it. The reason I say this is, while we think we need to be rescued and try and put ourselves in the position to be 'saved', why is it we choose people who are not capable of 'rescuing' in the first place. Don't we end up choosing someone who resembles the person we have the issue with in the first place?
My thoughts, from a lot of personal experience, is that you have to come to an acceptance of what happened and peace in what was just "was" whether it be right or wrong, fair or unfair. Acceptance and forgiveness allows us to let go of what we are hanging onto. |
Yes, I do agree this can be a huge aspect of it. It's an excellent question we should all ask ourselves.
However, we do not need to accept or forgive anything to change this whole rescue fantasy. I certainly haven't gotten anywhere near forgiveness, and have barely accepted most of what has happened, yet I have gone from wanted to be saved to saving myself.
Personally I think accepting will be easier than forgiving, in the long run. Hehe, but I've been wrong before.
Anyways we have all steered terribly far off course here, we were talking about the rescue fantasy.. shall we return there... *nudge nudge*
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