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Originally Posted by PSTD-Wife  Anyway, of course his one on one therapy now is bringing it all back up. |
It is going to get worse before it gets better. Starting therapy is great news but you need to prepare yourself for a bumpy ride.
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Originally Posted by PSTD-Wife And questions like "when will he ever be good enough for me"? All of which are related to his childhood - I get that. |
Are you sure this is related to his childhood? Really it sounds more like he feels that he isn't good enough. Is the focus between you two all about how he needs to heal? That could easily leave him feeling like the person at fault while your on a pedestal. When PTSD rears it's head in couple hood, both parties end up having many issues to deal with. You will have just as much healing, learning, and new coping skills to learn as he does. It sounds like he feels the entire burden of the relationships issues are on his shoulders. Perhaps try paying attention to what signals are being given out?
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Originally Posted by PSTD-Wife This morning, he emailed me from work the following:
Do you feel our relationship has gotten better (Yes / No)?
Do you think we are starting to get close again (Yes / No)?
Do you still want me around (Yes / No)?
Do you think I have improved (Yes / No)?
Do you feel I am even trying (Yes / No)?
I simply do not know how to or even if I should answer these. |
I would answer very honestly. Don't leave any room for interpretation. It really sounds like he has no hope and is feeling that you don't think he is trying. Try some very honest and calm conversation on this.. please do so when this doesn't come up. Pick a time when everything is rosy to do so. Keep using I feel statements to avoid blame...
Hope that helps some and gives you a bit to think about..
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