I figured as much. Our son has behavioral issues and any time we start a new behavior intervention, we see an increase before the decrease.

Its pretty complicated on how this is related to childhood. The bottom line is, he's lumped me into the same category of someone he loves who will inevitably hurt him and let him down.

We've had a re-occuring argument where he rehashes the same thing over and over again. Something where he felt I "purposely" let him down.It was over the fact I did not support him as much as he would have liked while he was playing out with a Rock Band about 5 years ago. He somehow expected me to be able to attend his 'gigs' every weekend even though he knew that we had no one to watch our special needs son. He admits that we had no respite resources. But...somehow, its still been blamed on me.

So, because of this, he decided that he would stop supporting anything to do with me. He pushed me away to the point that he did not even want to hear about my day or what was on my mind. If I tried to bring up something that inspired me, he'd tune me out and walk away. If I had something I wanted to share with him, he'd be too busy to share with me or would plainly state he was not interested. Yet, all the while he's pushing me away, he's asking for more and more sex without any intimacy attached. I wasn't feeling very good about any of it.

Up until recently, I had no idea why he was acting so disinterested in me. But, he's now admitted it's been on purpose.

This exact argument finally came up at our Marital Counseling. Prior to that, he continued to talk the talk at therapy sessions. Our therapist was really at a loss as to why we weren't making progress. So this time I brought it up this topic because I realized that's why I can't move on. I need his support (aka love, acceptance, etc.). The therapist began pushing him a bit on not dwelling on the past, but looking forward on how to move on. Suddenly, he blurted it all out - I was just like his mother who let him down. He can't trust anyone. Which then lead to a violent aggressive outburst directed towards the therapist's desk.

So...that's it in a nutshell. It's way complicated because we have so many underlying issues. We (both my husband and I) also believe that he likely is on the Autistic spectrum, like our son. So it's extremely complicated.

So, this questionnaire thing, I just was at a loss. I answered those questions last night verbally. Yet he insists that because things aren't fixed, I must not be telling the truth. Last night he was screaming at me that "He can never do enough for me". I told him that is just not true.

Thanks for responding. Putting my helmet on for our rocky roads ahead!