My husband returned from Iraq a year and a half ago. There are so many people that are suffering from these "invisible wounds" and are definatly being left behind to deal with it on their own. I am not sure how it is in the other branches of the military but i know for sure that the Marines it is definately looked down upon to have any psychological problems- even if it is from being deployed. If we could just make these guys realize that it is not something to be ashamed of and that there are some resources out there to help them, people's lives might not be destroyed by PTSD. But it is true that the VA is overwhelmed by the people and it takes awhile to get an appointment. I definately agree that we need to stop sending our guys/gals over there and ruining their lives to "save" other peoples. Before my husband and my sister along with her fiance came back with psych problems from being deployed i was all for the war, but seeing first hand what it does to the people returning I am against it. It is depressing how all these amazing people can be deployed and when they come back they feel all alone and have NO hope for anything...their marrages, life, careers, health, or any chance of happiness. It tears me up inside to see my husband deal with these issues on a day to day basis. It is very hard on me when he tells me that he doesnt' want to be married because he feels guilty for putting me through the hell that he has to go through to recover from PTSD or at least learn to deal with it. I want nothing more than to be there for him and help him through this, but he doesnt' want me to. I know there are many of you out there that are in the same situation...we just have to stay strong and pray for our spouses that the guilt will go away and the hope will return.