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Originally Posted by Grama-Herc 
So why do I feel like such an othsider? Yes, I screwed up big time in my rude hissy fit. But where did I cross the line? At what point did I stop expressing my opinion and become the grinch who stole christmas?
This is a seriuos question that I need to ask. I know the fit was anerror in my judgment, but when did I loose control? At what point? I am seriously asking this quesion for some constrctive input from the people here |
Good for you to be examining your actions and looking for answers! BRAVO, Sister!
I didn't follow the threads closely enough to be able to answer that question anywhere close to definitively. But I can say that from what I read, I felt you had been triggered by the re-statement of a forum rule in some manner. Perhaps you have an issue with rules - a power and control issue from your past trauma, perhaps? Too, as a former English major, I know that there are several definitions of the word "sympathy" and that it is possible that originally you misunderstood what was being said and were triggered by a misunderstanding. Only you can know, after a bit of reflection, what it was about that exchange that so triggered you, but I think it is wonderful that you are ready to examine that.
My DH threw nothing short of a complete temper tantrum yesterday. It put me in a bad place of having to let him know he'd seriously crossed the line into unacceptable territory. He's never seen me fierce before, but he learned there are boundaries to bad behavior, and consequences.
I wonder if he needed, somehow, to know what the boundaries are? Regardless of his need, he did so and he learned from it, I think. At least to this point it would appear that he is struggling to understand what happened, as you are.
We ALL make mistakes. Me, you, my DH, all of us. The big question is what we learn from those mistakes, and how we take those lessons forward in life.
Good for you!!!
Cowgirl