I once had a T tell me that she thought that some of my issues came from not being held enough as an infant. Well, my mother is no saint, but one thing is certain: she DID hold me when I was a baby.

While I sometimes get nervous with touch, especially from a man, I recognize that I do need it. I've never been good with touching people; after the trauma, I sort of had to re-learn how to give a simple hug. My lack of physical affection, (and I'm not talking about sexual or anything), has been a complaint of many of the guys I've dated. Regardless of someone's past, I do believe that touch is important, as it connects us to our fellow human being.