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Originally Posted by spiritofnow 
My last relationship suffered at the hands of this; I found it difficult to really see the truth of any situation surrounding conflict as I felt my partners suggestions were just him trying to manipulate me.
Manipulation is another good old fashioned defense mechanism - fear of it drives you to extremes in order not to become manipualted. It causes a lot of dysfunctional thinking and pushes people away.....Spirit x |
I think this often happened with my ex!
I often thought that everything should be kind of biased in his mind, for he didn't seem to see things clearly, as they simply were, he just seemed to confuse himself so much and get lost about a simple situation.
Whatever I tried to say to make it clearer, everything always became overcomplicated and it always ended with him withdrawing from conversation and me feeling upset, frustrated and desperately sorry about what happened.
Communication was totally down.
I had this feeling our discussions were finally just a suffering that I should spare him.
Saying that makes me realise how dysfunctional our relationship was in some way.
Spirit you post helped me a lot, thanks!