Very interesting Nicolette and thank you to the sufferer for sharing the insight!

It does make sense when I look back over the last few months with my ex-BF. We are still good friends, but when he was in bad shape I let him alone. I did let him know that I cared and that I was there for him if he needed me. I have noticed that he is recently and very slowly emerging from his cave. He is showing a bit of emotion and is trying to communicate how sorry he is for what he has done. Still a long road, but he is starting his journey.

Thanks!
Sisu