Why are we human beings such complex animals? Wouldn't it be much easier if not only did we always know our own motivations, but our partners too. It would make life much easier to not have to "read into" words, actions, emotions and try to interpret them ~ usually incorrectly.

That is great that you and your DH were able to talk about how you both were feeling. Maybe when you see that he is in a "talking" mood try to continue these conversations and explore deeper and you two will grow closer and more connected.

Sisu