Excellent suggestion from your friend, Nicolette. I'd add that, at least in my case, being pushed to do anything (even share with a loving friend) is a major trigger as it recreates the trauma, in which I was forced to do or say things. So I tend to clamp down even more if urged to share! When given time and space to regain my composure and sense of safety, I am much more likely to volunteer my thoughts and feelings, and this is likely true for others.