I very much agree with the lack of respect aspect. Shutting down is a survival mechanism. It may not be a very healthy one, but it keeps you alive. If someone could not grasp that I just need to do that once in awhile, frankly they wouldn't be in my life for very long. Mind you, I don't shut down for that long either. I also will not be apologizing for it. This is not bad behavior. It's a survival mechanism. Why would anyone apologize for that? I will not apologize for symptoms nor mechanisms that have enabled my survival. I will work on more healthy ones though.

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