Dear es,

I'm so sorry. This must be so painful for you and for him. When I was suffering, I refused to go to therapy as well. But my parents had a referal to a good therapist who they themselves went to see. When I became fed up with a predicament I was in, my Mom said, shall call and make an appointment for you? I was ready because I wasn't pushed, and I said yes.

Perhaps you will find the best way to handle this from seeing a therapist yourself

Good luck! CS