Take two groups of people. In both groups have them chose "A"s & "B"s. Have equal of both in both groups.

Now have the A's in both groups clinch a fist. Have the B's in group 1 try their hardest to make the A's open their fist. Try hard, physically, in any manner possible to force them to open their hands.

Now have in group 2 the B's try by more peaceful means to talk the A's into opening their fists.

In every case this experiment is tried you will find that a peaceful means is far more acceptable and successful.

Such as is with counseling. Right now I'm in forced counseling. And exactly how successful is that? It's not. It's making my stress level far worse than before. The road trip to see him is physically painful. The work I have to do to afford paying him, is physically painful and emotionally draining. How successful is that supposed to be?

Only thing forced counseling (in my case) succeeds in doing is creating anger, and hatred. The longer it goes on the worse it gets. When I cannot get more than maybe on a good day 6 hours of sleep because of the pain, what kind of an ally am I?