First, it is VERY difficult for people still in the military to seek help for PTSD. Yes, help is available, but then they have THE LABEL. THE LABEL can harm careers. It isn't fair, but that is the perception and the reality.

You might try it this way. See if you can find a marriage counselor who has some experience with PTSD. Talk to the counselor about the situation. See if the counselor would be willing to see you as a couple and individually without applying THE LABEL to your DH and potentially harming his career?

Even if you never got HIM in to see that therapist, you could benefit from going, as you could learn how to cope better.

Just a thought.

Best wishes,

Cowgirl