I'm in agreement with Cowgirl's strategy. It sounds like she's familiar with military politics. I can imagine that anyone who works/lives in the "protective" mode might benefit from this.

I too have a call into a marriage councelor to inquire about PTSD. I think of it as killing two birds with one stone as it definitely has a huge impact on my husband as well.

Keep us posted. We can learn from your experience!

CS