Thank you very much for your welcome Anthony.
I am living in the Netherlands (I am 33) and I have a boyfriend l (he is 37) living in Croatia. There is no need to tell you what has been going on out there during the mid nineties. As a former student of International Relations I have been much concerned with the war in Bosnia and Croatia. Don't ask me why, I just have been. To keep it for now as an introduction, my life has become a rollercoaster emotionally as I am just an ordinary girl loving a war veteran and ex-prisoner of war. Well, I could not do that if he did not love me as much as I love him. Ok, I speak the language as well..

I am here to learn and to talk, and to help, if I can. So far I have had a lot 'gosh, I know'.... moments when reading threads. Some of them made me cry because I know how the 'she' is feeling.

Sometimes I forget that my love has PTSD. I make the mistake thinking that I make a difference (and I do, I know, but I can't heal him). Besides, he is living in a country in which these guys have become no-ones. There is not much good support available. They are called Dogs of War and many of them are sent into forced retirement.

So that's why I am here. To see how others are doing and to learn from others.

After 1,5 year I know now what is PTSD (but still there is more).
For now, I will start reading your article which I just downloaded.

Thank you for this forum, it's great. Especially in my country you can't expect people to understand what it is like to love someone who has a wounded soul as a result of war and torture.