Nic,

I guess the concern comes from the fact that you are willingly wanting to have a child whilst not being in a stable relationsip or perhaps even more importantly having learned to be able to have one.

I understand your desire and of course you are just as worthy as any other woman who wants a family.

I guess, you should remember this......I am a single parent and it breaks my heart that even though my son knows that I truly wanted him, he grieves over not having a present father. He desperately wants to connect with this side of him.

Having a family as you put it, would also be about providing one for your child - providing the best possible environment. And, yes women do and can do it on their own. It is not easy!

I wish I had a partner so that I could share my responsibilties, someone to support me at all times ! Especially, when I am having to be the bad cop and dish out consequences, the list is endless.

Perhaps , having a child would seem like a good distraction from your life? Oh boy, it so is not. In actual fact it magnifies all those insecurites and issues you already have. You have to prepare your child for the world in the most balanced way that you can. This is even harder to achieve while you are working on yourself.

I am not saying no to your idea! I am not saying that you would not make a good mother, but perhaps you should work on you first and then you will have that family you so desire.

Just my thoughts!

Spirit x