Hi. Iam new too. But I am the wife of a sufferer and wonder if I could be triggering my husband without knowing it. What is it that she is doing if you don't mind my asking? Have you seriously talked with her with raw emotion about what she is doing to you? I ask because I cannot imagine my doing something that my husband has clearly told me hurts him. Could sjhe be doing this without intention? Or could I be doing something that triggers my husband and he is not telling me where I could have a chance to help? That would kill me if I knew I could do something or stop doing something and that would help my husband.My name is Christy and let me first say Thank You for your service.