I don't think that the choice to have a baby is self-destructive. I don't think that it was your gyno's place to decide your motivation for your decision. It is her job to make sure you have a healthy pregnancy and birth ~ if you do get pregnant.

I am now a single mom and I do fine, although I had both my daughters when I was married. Before I had my kids I was a selfish person. Once you have kids you can no longer be selfish. These little newborn babies need you to survive. They can do nothing on their own and you must teach them everything. Mine are now 9 & 10 and the teaching continues... I am sure as a teacher you know all of this.

I think in todays society there is not a specific definition of a "normal" family. Most families do not have a mom and dad who have never been divorced. Our normal in our family is the fact that we all love and support each other.

Good luck on your decision. Sisu