Thread: What Should Be Considered "Self-Destructive"?
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Old 24-04-2008, 09:33 AM
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How single parenting got to be a "lifestyle" choice is beyond me. Single parenting is not only hard but it puts the child at a disadvantage. This is proven. They have issues from education to social settings whether your income is 20,00 a year or 100,00 a year. If you don't believe me, then look it up! There are tons of studies done on this.

Also, PTSD as a label is just bull. PTSD is our reality. It affects our every action, word and thought. It has to be considered no matter what we do. Having children is no different, in fact, it's all the more important to be considered. I'm not saying don't have children because you have PTSD. I'm saying wait until your further in the healing process where you are in management. Anything less would be irresponsible.

Plain and simply where is the thought on how this is going to adversely affect the child? This "future" child should be the utmost in every one's minds, yet it's all about the mother's desires?

Really it takes a courageous person to say, I'm going to wait to have my child so that I am giving him/her every possible chance to have a great opportunity at life and to give myself the best possible chances of being a great mother. It also takes a selfless person, the foundation of motherhood.

Also I do not see how the doctor giving their opinion on this is crossing the line. Doctors are NOT required to spin things nicely so we feel good about ourselves. Nor are they required to just tell us what we want to hear. It is their job to protect life. Even future lives that have yet to be born. Also it sounds like it doesn't matter how anyone says anything, if it's not what is wanted to be heard it's ignored, considering this is the second thread on this topic.

No matter what spin is put on this, I consider this to be a bad decision at this time. With uncontrolled PTSD, issues with basic medical exams that are vital to the child's and mother's well being, and the complete lack of consideration for how single parenting adversely effects a child makes it bad timing. Clear those issues up, and reconsider.

I'm done with this subject.

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