I agree that it's so very good that he was willing to share these events with you. It means he trusts you with very dark secrets that he can't tell other people. This took alot of courage from him, and you must mean alot to him. Treasure that trust you have earned and never violate it, please.

I knew my husband ten years before i told him some of the most gory details of my trauma, things I am embarrassed about or things I have done that were just stupid.

I understand that a person's sexual identity can be anywhere on a continuum between heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. That identity can change throughout life, also but I don't know why or how that happens, personally.

Yes, your husband may have had relations with a man to make himself feel bad; I can understand that. We don't know if he did it because he wanted to, he enjoyed it, or because sometimes we do things that we see as 'self-destructive' because our self esteem is low at that point in time.

How do you feel about it?