Upstream,
I am a carer, so maybe I shouldn't be here replying to your question...but I am going to anyway...

In my situation it is the opposite problem. I totally understand ptsd and how it changes a persons perceptions. My ex decided a couple of months ago that he did not want to involve me in his terrible problems and that he was best to go life alone. Now he is slightly emerging from his low point and realizes that he screwed up by pushing me away. He said that he had it all and threw it away.

I have always been the type of person who accepts others for who they are faults and all. I know that I am not perfect nor do I want to date someone who is. However, I will not accept abuse (verbal or physical) or any other type of dis-respect.

Maybe my ex was odd or maybe I am odd....but our situation was apparently not the "norm".

Sisu