I think people in general inherently want to be understood. It is something that all people crave. I do think that when a person has a "defect" that "we" want it just as badly as the next but because "we" aren't as easily understood, we pine for it more - we tend to over-explain or try without success to conform to the norm and then we are usually left feeling badly which then leads us to want to be understood even more. It's a cycle, like most everything else. We have to try harder, therefore we want it more.

Best,
Rachel