Welcome to the forum lexie. Was deployed myself many times over my military career. Now retired. From the point of view of a soldier, I can share my experience with you. Whilst deployed it is often difficult emotionally to keep in touch with loved ones. One always has in the back of one's mind, "this may be the last time I speak to my wife and kids". Additionally, there is a certain attitude on operations, a certain mindset, which is difficult to explain to civilians. However. It does distance you, and it is important to have that distance. Important to "bond" with your unit, the men you are working with, rather than your family. Especially just before deployment, important to detach with family somewhat. Your going to a war zone, it's dangerous to not stay focused. Slip ups due to not being focused can be a matter of life and death. Perhaps Anthony or someone else can explain better as I am not so good with words.

In any event, not easy for the family either. Wish my wife was here to speak with you. However. She is unwell currently. Take care.

Jim.