I also suffer from extreme phantom pain in what was my left leg. And like yourself have tried everything including the spinal cord stimulator. I personally hated it. They put temporary leads into the spine that came out your back and connected to a unit that you needed to carry around with you for a couple of days to try it out and see if it worked. After they put the leads in they try different settings so that it gets the signal to affect the correct area and after they did all the settings none were perfect, but some at least hit the area. The problem was that now not only did I feel the phantom pain, but also these big shocks in the "phantom" area. So just thought I'd let you know, but that's not to say you won't find it helpful. The only thing that I have found to help are my pain meds and taking temazapam at night to let me sleep at least a few hours.