Upstream and others- These posts hit me so hard. As the years went by I became convinced that my wife did not understand what had happened to me. My wife bought me a good PTSD work book but when I completed it she did not read it. I felt she often put me in situations where the fears I have would be unreal. My destruction of self esteem and loss of self worth were powerful. I felt that if she did not bother to learn all there is to learn about me than she must not really love me. How could she help if she did not bother to educate herself and understand? I began to see her as part of the problem. Any thoughts?