My "special friend" does have issues with self love. He always downplays a compliment given to him and feels like he is not worthy of someone good. He feels that he deserves someone but not someone with "true love" for him. I guess he feels like it is also too much stress for him sometimes to be able to accept those good feelings because he feels undeserving.

We are starting to work through those feelings, but I think they are very well ingrained in his psyche. He has a tremendous amount of guilt if he feels that he did something bad to me. It may be something so minor that I didn't even notice....such as he didn't get me flowers for more than a month. This is not something I expect (although it is nice) but the fact that he didn't get me flowers is no reason to feel guilty.

I am the opposite. I am extremely laid back and know in my heart that I do the best that I can every day. If I don't get everything done that I am supposed to do....it will be there tomorrow. I don't worry about anything (but my kids) and I rarely feel guilty about anything. I can do what I can do....and no more than that.

Sisu