I have struggled with myself as to whether I should comment or not. My automatic response would be to stand up for Anthony but for those who do not know me - I would only do that if I believed he was right. He would be the first to admit that I challenge him if I have a differing view.

With that cleared up, I can now comment without anyone thinking my response is because Anthony is my partner.

In my opinion, every one has a different opinion and our life experiences color our views. There are also always two sides to every story. It's all about position as to the view you will take.

Anthony can be harsh and direct and may come across as having a big ego but I would say it is more confidence than ego and I know confidence can intimidate those who are not confident themselves. Is that wrong? Well, that is who he is and I love him for who he is. Does that mean I have to agree with him - hell no. Does that mean I should publically prosecute him because I disagree - no. The solution is somewhere in the middle.

Like Wendy said, you are free to come here and no one is forcing anyone to. What works for one person may not work for another hence why people change therapists. As Jim said, being here helped Evie but it may not help someone else but that is their responsibility. Just like you choose or not choose to attend a therapist appointment is the same choice between logging on or not logging on.

Furthermore, there are things which happen here on the forum which make me feel uncomfortable like all the "love and kisses" spread as I think it happens too easily and to me it is something special I give to those I care about most and not something I hand out to someone who has posted a few times. That is me, and my opinion but I don't start a thread condeming those who do it as I accept that is the way those people are. Just because it makes me uncomfortable does not mean they are wrong.

My point, I think we should take from the forum what is best for us and disreguard the rest. Anthony owns it so has the right to do or say as he sees fit. That's just a fact.

I think more people should invest their energy in themselves and healing rather than involving themselves in what other people do.