Firstly, the sudden change of heart concerning the forum was because, I was not aware that you put yourself in the position of a therapist and practised medical interventions. That is of course until I read what you were doing with Cypher.

Secondly, this finding was and is the fundamental reason for posting the thread, but not just for leaving. I was already feeling it was time to move on. The forum was a resource to stretch and challenge some of my dysfunctional thinking brought about by my faulty ‘rules for living’ due to my traumas’. I do not wish to use the forum as another crutch that disables me from living as I wish. Therefore, I would have already left, but this was hastened by my concerns over what you were practising.

Thirdly, I have absolutely no problem with tough love, digging deep and pulling out your demons, unravelling all of the dynamics of trauma to unearth the truths of those experiences. This is exactly what I do every week in therapy. I set the standard each week and I face my demons, explore them and then come home and consolidate what I have learned so that I can integrate healthier patterns of behaviour. I initiated my healing; I requested therapy because I knew that I had come to a place in my life that was just repeating old behaviours that were making me unhappy. I give myself tough love! I push myself as hard as I possibly can, because I will not endure years of therapy just to carry on living as I have.

My fourth point, my T and her approach is working. She studied the theory and gained her experience through practise. She is a trauma expert, not a counsellor. She specialised in trauma therefore, her technique is appropriate. Her tools match my condition. Only she has more than a one-dimensional view of PTSD than you! She treats every patient holistically. She takes into consideration that each patient is an individual and requires individualised treatment, which negates your argument of one-model fits all. This will be the same route that I take. How I apply myself professionally and on a forum are two separate things. I do not believe that tough love and challenging people is always the right method. It goes back to individual differences again. For some it may and some it may not. You cannot assume that PTSD is all that you are treating. You are treating a 3dimensinal person and each one will present their symptoms uniquely.

I am still pissing off, for all of the reasons that I initially outlined. This thread has not been answered as I assumed it would not be. All it has been used for is to defend your position and diminish what I was concerned about; a layperson practising therapy on a vulnerable person. That should not of happened, no matter how much you proclaim you gave them options. You are still dealing with people who are vulnerable and who you KNOW all to well do not make sound choices because of their current PTSD symptoms. That is the abuse of power!