thank you for your response 2guilt.
Anthony, thanks for that, I didn't realize that it was interactive like that.
One problem I have with a lot of the criteria is that they assume that the 'event' was a one time thing or that I'd remember what I was like before 'it' happened. 'It' started with violence in the womb (yes, my father tried to abort me in there by punching my mothers belly over and over again) to the incest and molestation all through my childhood (and violence, and moving all the time, etc etc). Many things didn't have a starting point in my mind. Also, when you learn to live with some of it (the memories are always there, they are not intrusive, they just don't go away) because you need to, what is that?

If a person reacts so strongly to triggers, has suffered repeated and prolonged traumas, has anger issues (what other people would consider anger, I don't even know it), it is hard to deny what I would call PTSD, but it seems everything centers around war vets and one time traumas in adults.