Pandora,
I got a medical discharge from the military at just 29, with 60% disability. I had to use a wheelchair, an electric scooter, a shower chair, leg braces, arm braces, hip brace, a TENS unit for pain control, a heating pad, hearing aids and eleven different medications. I grieved. I was of course healthy when I entered the military; you have to be healthy to get in.

That bitch was wrong to say that you have to be old to get a commode. Children get polio and some people are born with terrible disabilities. Handicaps have no age restrictions. That nurse has a common sense problem. I would talk to your doc and the office manager about her attitude!

If you need more stuff to accommodate your disability, I can tell you what I have done: estate sales. When people die or move into a rest home, they sell all kinds of nice, gently-used stuff like raised toilet seats, wheelchairs, shower chairs, etc much cheaper than even the Goodwill store. Just have to wash anything you buy with very hot water in the tub, and then pour rubbing alcohol on it too--imagine the person who owned it before you had Ebola or some other disease you don't want. Plastic doesn't hold germs, but I am extra careful.

I got my raised toilet seat for $3.00 at a yard sale thrown at a big rest home. I got a walker for $5.00 at a yardsale. My sphincter is too tight to pay retain for that stuff. And once I finish paying my yearly deductible, I go get expensive things with a prescription: TENS unit, custom braces, wheelchairs, handles that help me button clothes, special knives and sissors for arthritis hands, etc.

I feel angry for you, Pandora.