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Originally Posted by Lisa  My nights are as traumatic as the days at times... I don't switch off, and don't relax... it's emergency mode non-stop at times like this. It makes sense that if someone is in such a high state of vigilance and anxiety that sense of time would be affected, and remembering simple things like bills becomes low priority to a PTSD sufferer who feels in threat in the now... |
Thanks so much Lisa. This makes a lot of sense to me. Nights are often traumatic for him. He's had pretty bad insomnia since the events way back when he was 11 and the computer gaming was his escape from it back then too. So it makes sense that the bills to cover the gaming would be a higher priority than any other, especially since he's given up the drink and drugs. Growing up he had no good examples of how to be organised either. Family life just lurched from one mess or crisis to the next.
When I put up notices (usually reminders for myself) he does pay attention to them so a big calender on the fridge sounds like the way to go.
The thing is I'm not a naturally organised person myself. It's very much the square peg in a round hole thing for me. (And I used to be a secretary so I know what I'm talking about!) So I'll personally miss some bill or other thing too. I'm much better at connecting the dots on some obscure theology than working out what the hell the Telstra bill is trying to tell me. It's a bit scary for me but I guess we'll muddle through some how... again.