OH, how in the world did you get involved with these people. Just because your husband works with him doesn't mean you have to be friends too.

I want to say something to you that you might not like but you need to hear it. I don't think you choose your friends carefully (I've been guilty of this too) You are too nice and trusting and want to give them the benefit of the doubt IMO. and that is what is causing these problems.

I also think that these people don't listen to you even though you set some boundaries because you don't follow through with the boundaries until you get sick with physical illness. You shouldn't let it go that far. If someone doesn't listen to your boundaries the 1st time, then end it.... period.....

I hope you feel better and please be careful when you become friends with people.
Tammy