Rachel, I understand your concern and the decision you make is up to you. But please consider that you can't save everyone. They need to learn to save themselves. If you run around here trying to save everyone you will wear yourself down and burn yourself out.

I was just basing my opinion on the fact of what happened with my mother. She stated she was going to kill herself to 3 people and meant it. She was under suicide watch, and she still did it.

There is a difference...... and this is what I want to point out here. If some one is just momentarily thinking they want to die they will snap out of it, or get help. These are the people that can be helped, but usually only by a professional.

The people who already have made up their mind, are going to do it no matter what you do or say. I understand their pain and I've made two attempts myself in the past. I know the difference between a cry for help and feeling it's time to throw in the towel.

When a person gets in this frame of mind it's almost impossible to change it. I think it's best to tell them you will miss them when they are gone, but if they are just crying for help you can lend them moral support and listen. However, my point being is that worrying over something you have no control over is stress that you shouldn't have to endure.

I know this seems cold on my part and I can assure you I don't want anyone to die. But if I was ready to throw in the towel and someone was trying to stop me, that would just make things worse on them because they would have felt they failed (with tons of guilt) when I succeeded. So please don't set yourself up for that kind of disappointment.

I know from experience that worrying will not change their mind, but will cause you stress that you don't need. I hope you understand what I'm trying to convey here. I think that we should focus our attention on the people who want help, instead of those who don't. I'm not sure who this person is and maybe it's just a cry for help and do whats in your heart.

What I said may seem mean and cruel, but it's just being realistic based on a lot of years of what I experienced with my mother.

Take it easy
Tammy