I suppose there are a lot of reasons why I have that need to take care of things immediately. Partly because we have two small children in the house and I don't want them to grow up thinking that this is what a normal marriagee is like. Partly because it took me 2 years to get him to go to therapy, and I don't think I can handle waiting another two years to work on our marriage. But I think most of it may be my own insecurities. I didn't know my dad and my mom was very neglectful. I never felt loved until I met my husband, and now it's killing me that I'm feeling that way again. I think I tend to be a bit overbearing with my "handle it right this second" attitude, but I don't know how else to handle it. If I let him stew a bit and talk about it later, he says he has no idea what I'm talking about.
Still, thanks for your input. What you said makes sense, and I suppose I will try to give him some space and let him think a bit. I just wonder where I should draw the line between dealing with my own needs, and dealing with his at my own expense.