Heartbroken, it really sounds like you could use a bit of therapy at the moment. (not insulting you here) I just think it might help if you could have someone to talk to yourself, to help you learn about this, to have support, to have someone to vent to, and also to help you learn about what you can do with the marital issues on your own.

Sorry to say but right now, your partner needs to focus on himself. He needs to learn to manage his PTSD and won't be capable of working through martial issues, at the start. He will as time progresses but right now.. give his therapy a chance to work on the PTSD.

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