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Originally Posted by Angela_S  Perhaps your husband's silence and changing the subject is his way of avoiding an argument. I would say that is a sign of progress, although very frustrating I'm sure.
I'm very much like you in that I want things taken care of RIGHT NOW. We also have 2 children at home. I'm beginning to understand though that the more I push, the less likely I am to get a desirable outcome from him. If I just leave it be, he will usually address it later after he's thought about it. One thing I think about sufferers is that their "trigger" reaction is often to defend themselves, and often with anger. Reactions are much better after they have time to process.
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This is very true, Angela. Rage is the biggest issue the PTSD sufferer must deal with because of its danger. It is very likely that the therapist suggested the coping mechanism of changing the subject. That way he can avoid anger that could escalate into rage. You are right that they need time to process, without pressure. That is why I give my DH space when he starts to escalate.
Cowgirl