Most females I know, self included, met their partners when their interest in men was minimal if not non-existent.

When I was hoping to meet a man and my friends said the same things which are being said here I thought how do I become not interested? I think not interested for me became when it didn't really matter to me anymore that I was single as I was just going to live my life my way.

As most of you would know from other threads I met Anthony out the front of my house. I was watering the garden when he came over and introduced himself due to my son being invited to his son's birthday which was on that weekend. To be perfectly honest I wasn't really interested as I was being eaten by mosquitoes and my concern was getting inside. Even when Anthony invited me over for the birthday party (if I had nothing better to do) I said I had a date with my ironing board thanks. The thought of having 16 year olds running around next door concerned me and if it wasn't for that and wanting to give my son the keys to the house so I could lock it, I would never had gone over next door as I don't like having much to do with neighbours as I like being left alone at home. Anthony and I started talking and that was the end of that. Not for one minute did I think of Anthony as anything other than the father of the boy next door.

Wish I could offer an answer but I think a lot of it is fate mixed up with a person being at peace with themselves being single and accepting that.

What Awakening said in the other relevant thread about her single friend and finding the place "out" where she is told to go, was not only funny, but very apt. You can't meet someone if you don't change what you are doing and don't leave the house.