Like several who have mentioned here, I was not looking and had sworn off of men when I met my husband. We were stationed together at the same army base in Germany. We started going out (I was only looking for a nice person to have fun with) and then two weeks later he asked me to marry him. I did fall in love with him, but I was so pissed at him for getting through my defenses and making me fall in love with him.

A friend once told me that she was 'Not looking, but was willing to be found'. Agreeing with others that getting out and doing is the way to meet people. School functions, libraries, church/temple, etc. where people have common interests and aren't just looking for a quick roll in the hay (i.e. bars and clubs) are best. Added advantage to meeting people by getting out is that you're getting out of the house and doing something for yourself.

Lisa