If you need some anger, you can have some of mine. wry smile. I have the exact opposite problem- I am still (20 years later) so angry that I frequently feel like my chest is going to explode and my burning heart will burst out and set fire to the world. I think a lot of us learn through the traumatic event/s that fear is ok, terror is ok, crying is ok, throwing up is ok; but that expressed anger is dangerous to us in the situation. So later on, it becomes a well learned habit to hide anger because we've been taught that to show it is potentially lethal. OF COURSE it's difficult to overcome that mindset and allow anger its proper expression. And it IS proper to have, feel, and express anger. (constructively and safely, of course) Plus- and I mean no offense to any of the men out there- it's societally "unladylike" to be mad. Sad is definitely alright if you're a girl, but not rage. I need to find my sorrow and it's hard because I get so angry when I go looking for it. Ironic, no? So maybe we can share- I'll give you some anger and you can give me some sorrow. (if only it were that easy, right?) red