First, if he ever lays a hand on you again, you need to contact the police and a battered women's center in your area. There is NO EXCUSE for anyone to hit another person in anger. NONE. PTSD doesn't excuse it. TBI doesn't excuse it. Nothing excuses it.

People with PTSD and other disorders generally manage not to be physically violent at work (if they are able to work) because they can control themselves. Their ability to control themselves can extend to the home environment as well, but that means you have to set boundaries. The rest of the world has boundaries and consequences, and so they manage to restrain their anger outside the home. If they have boundaries and consequences for violence in the home, they can learn to control themselves there also.

The first boundary you must set is that you will not under any circumstances tolerate abuse. Let him know that if it ever happens again, he will go to jail. Then, if he gets abusive, follow through with consequences. Call the police. And seek help from a battered women's center. PERIOD.

It is very difficult that he has been treated so shabbily by the military. That is such a common problem. You may want to seek advice from an attorney who works in the area of military law.

Also, it may be that your husband could get on SSI as well. You would want to talk to an attorney who does Social Security disability law for that - and they generally work on a contingency fee basis, so that they don't charge anything up front to help clients.

Cowgirl