Very well explained everyone!
I can totally relate to what Red said, though. When angry, I feel that pounding in my chest. When raging, only when reacting to physical pain, I have apelike strength so I know the potential lethal aspect especially when I can't contain it. It's like my brain shuts down and I just react without thinking... eliminate the threat mode.
But it wasn't always that way for me. After my 3 months of agoraphobia, and after many panic attacks, I became an animal. I put up a lot of borders and when I felt like someone violated those borders, it was exile or war, I would either completely write them off, or protect my space. Having gone through what I went through, I decided no one could inflict an ass whoopin that was worse than what I had already received. Besides, he was the only person I feared. I would rage when I saw wrong doing, especially when the victim was a senior, woman, child, animal... nothing infuriated me more than someone victimizing the helpless.
I am so diligent at protecting my space, that people say I seem unapproachable. One time, while at a grocery store parking lot, a male "crackhead" approached me for change while my child was with me, I tried to turn him down politely, but he insisted on begging and getting too close for comfort. So, I shoved him, I told him in the loudest voice possible, "hey, I said no, wtf are you doing approaching a woman with a child? Get the F*** away or I'm f***in you up." I meant it, and it just came out. I was totally ready to gouge his eyes out with my keys for violating my space with my boy present. Yes, I've found my anger and it can be scary at times.... |