Sometimes, the depression that a PTSD sufferer feels is very deep. Sometimes, they even commit suicide (or attempt it). What you can do when he says such things is to remind him that he is the world to his children, and that he is your hero. Build his self-esteem a little. Because the PTSD sufferer often goes through bouts of depression such that they cannot see their own value. Remind him of all his wonderful qualities. Tell him you love him and need him.

But you can't just say it once and he'll be all better. It will happen again and again.

What you can do for YOU is to work on YOU. Remember that he is NOT your whole world. Your children are a huge part of your world. YOU are a huge part of your world. Your friendships and interests are a huge part of your world. Take care of you. Nurture you. You have to get strong and stay strong to make it in a relationship like this. You cannot fix him. NOTHING you do or say will fix him. You can only help him, love him, and be supportive. Ultimately, he is in charge of his fate.

So, love him. But love yourself and your children too. Pursue a hobby. Do things for your own mental health. Don't let him be the entire center of your universe. Let your universe expand a little to encompass more, so that you can have more joy and peace in your life.

Hugs,

Cowgirl