Hi armywife,

I was holding back a bit here. My wife went through some similar things as you. There have been times when my depression, "crazy making" behaviour and physical ailments have been too much for me to handle on my own and I know she was left wanting to help me, but not knowing what to do.

Some of the things she has done to help was just be there when I needed her. She would tell me how important I was to her and our daughter. She let me know the positive stuff that I do. She made it easier for me to go to therapy by making allowances at home, like scheduling our life around it. She let me know I wasn't in it alone. All of these little things were huge ofr me all put together. Now when things get bad, and yes they sometimes still do even after years and years, we shift gears and go into the "depression mode", where there is a little more cuddling than usual. More walks as a family than usual. etc.

When it comes to finding the strength, I am not sure where she gets it from. I'll ask her tonight.